All the singles ladies

Went on a mini vacay to Pennsylvania for my alma mater's homecoming and got dumped when I got back! I'm not gonna waste too much of a post on this nonsense. But I will say that I feel like I was strung along for a week. Being that, we had a conversation a few days before my trip that implied the ending of our relationship. So I went on my trip, BEHAVED, and came home just to be dumped. My ex claims he didn't want to ruin my trip by dumping me beforehand. I find that to be BULLSHIT. 

I guess I understand his reasoning for ending it. Apparently I'm too emotional, aka too much to handle. So here I am, a week later, still angry. 

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But on a good note, he had A LOT of things coming up that I was not in favor of. We were bound to break up sooner or later. I just believed that WE could work. However, he was not willing to put in as much effort as I was. 

If I Had A Million Dollars

So today's horoscope said to write a list of what I would do if I unexpectedly won a large sum of money. My blog seems like the perfect place to do that.

1. Pay off all my debts.
2. Since my car is officially paid off, pimp my ride:
    -Buy new hub caps and rims for my car.
    -Buy a new radio system for my car.
    -Tint my windows.
3. Take a class for LSATS.
4. Go to law school.
5. Move into a nicer apartment.
6. Buy the iPhone 6
7. Get a personal trainer. 

I'm not materialistic so that's all I can think of at the moment.

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Don't worry, be happy

Finally talked to my MIA boyfriend. Apparently he's been phoneless and was never ignoring me. In fact, he was wondering why I didn't come over this past weekend like I intended. I explained that it was because I hadn't heard from him. (As a girl, I like to confirm things multiple times.)

Yes, it took 4 days for him to remember he had my emails. But all that matters is that he contacted me. COMMUNICATION = the key to any successful relationship. And we actually had a long talk about everything that's been bothering me. Guess we're still in the honeymoon phase.

Funny how things work out.

Positive thinking brings positive results. All my readers should watch "The Secret" documentary on Netflix ASAP. It'll change your life!

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End of the Honeymoon

How do couples keep the spark when the honeymoon period is over?

My relationship is officially out of the honeymoon phase. We've been together about 3 months and everything seems like it's falling apart. Of course it's not, but we seem to disagree on more things that usual. I want to go out more, he doesn't. No reason to be discouraged though. It might just mean that each person needs some space.

Or maybe it means some things need to be re-evaluated? My man claims to be saving money yet he continues to spend it frivolously. Yet, he seems to be "too broke" to take me out. Sounds a bit selfish to me. No, I'm not trying to control his money either. All I'm saying is that I would like to go out to eat every now and then. When I expressed my feelings about this matter, he went MIA. I know what my faithful readers are thinking-NOT AGAIN. I doubt that he's disappeared, but clearly he doesn't want to talk about it. Well I have something in store for him whenever he decides he wants to communicate again. Just wait for it. 

I rather not get into it too much though. Apparently I tend to blab my business. I just consider it "sharing." 

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Long time no speak

So I just randomly got the urge to blog, which is why I'm here. I didn't check to see how long it's been, but at least a few months?

Not much going on, I'm jamming out to some old school R&B. Jodeci radio on Pandora is AWESOME, if you love 90s R&B. And if you like that, here's a few others.

Kem radio
Maxwell radio
Luther Vandross radio
Bobby Womack radio (really old R&B)

Congrats Kim and Kanye!

I'm so happy for Kim Kardashian and Kanye West. There wedding looks like it was nothing short of magical. Getting married in Italy is a dream.

Surprisingly, Kim's dress wasn't as revealing as I thought it would be. She worked so hard to get that body back so I thought she was going to expose more. She still looked absolutely stunning though.

Welcome to the family Kanye West!!

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Loved that dress she wore to her wedding party though.

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Kimye wedding this week?

Shout out to mediatakeout for that article on Kimye possibly getting married in Cali this week. 

Honestly that wouldn't surprise me because Kim has been losing A LOT of weight at a fast pace. I couldn't figure out why because it's not she's been doing a lot of media related things. But a potential wedding this week? That's more than enough reason for my sis to get her body right.

If the wedding is this week, I cannot wait to see her dress! Loved their pictures in Vogue, btw.

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Wine and Me

I've come to realize that I have a very strange relationship with wine.

First of all, I don't consider myself an alcoholic because I do not need to drink every day or even every week. Now don't get me wrong, I like alcohol, but I just don't need the unnecessary calories. Now that I'm in the process of toning up, paying off debts, and saving, I find more reasons to not spend money on it.

However, every now and then (like last night) I get the urge to have a drink. Typically, I'll just buy a cheap bottle of wine and make it last for two weeks. Mainly because, I tend to delay opening it. 

In addition, there are times when I want to buy a bottle of wine, yet I don't because I know I shouldn't be spending the money. So I'll just go to the store, walk up and down the wine aisle, read some descriptions, then make note of wines that I should buy when I have the extra money. 

Interesting relationship right?

On a side note, I've been on a Merlot kick lately...

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Love, Actually?

I have this app on my phone, AllWomensTalk (don't judge me), and it's like the best thing I ever downloaded. It talks about celebs, beauty, fashion, love, lifestyle, wellness and soo many other topics. They even email me weekly suggestions of articles to read.

The articles come in the form of "7 Ways to Train Your Brain" and "7 Reasons to Move Away From College. Those are actually real articles since I couldn't find a way to describe its format. Feel free to look them up.

Today, I came across an article titled, "17 Signs He is in Love With You." As much as I didn't want to get sucked into it, I did - which tends to happen with this app. The whole thing with just hysterical. Some of the signs included things like ,"He enjoys cuddling with you. He is constantly keeping up eye contact. He wants to spend every moment with you." All I could think about was blah blah blah lol. 

Isn't every relationship different? Are there some guys out there who enjoy cuddling in general? Does it necessarily mean they're in love? Overall, kudos to the app for once again sucking me in and making me BELIEVE.

Don't get me wrong, I love the app, it has interesting articles. However I must pay attention to the validity of the content. 

Drake and Rihanna

All I'm going to see about this is DUH. Drake is a Scorpio and Rihanna is a Pisces. That is a perfect match. They were bound to get together eventually. And they are going to continue to be on/off because that it the pattern of a Scorpio-Pisces relationship. Rihanna is my sis though and if she's happy, I'm happy. As much as I loved her with Chris Brown, she deserves better. As a Pisces currently dealing with a Taurus, I completely understand the complications of their relationship.

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Bipolar vs. Moody

Today, a guy jokingly told me that I was bipolar. I've never had someone tell me that. So of course I had to ask what makes me bipolar. Never got a reply. Well it's been 30 minutes and I'm still waiting.

I've always considered myself to be pretty moody. I openly admit that. My emotions go from one extreme to the next. And they change constantly. I guess that sounds a lot like bipolar behavior. But trust me, I'm not as bad as it seems. I just have very strong emotions.

So men, what's the difference between a bipolar and moody female? What makes you think a female is bipolar?

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Confessions of a Workaholic

Having 3 jobs makes it even more difficult to find time to post on my blog. I barely have time to tweet lol. But anyway, for those of you who do read my posts, I just wanted to make an appearance. I'm alive and well. 

Life is still...interesting, as usual. It's nice to have money coming in from all angles lol. Every time I think I'm broke, I remember that I'm about to get paid from at least 1 of my 3 jobs. I'm not into money and material possessions but it's nice to be able to pay my bills.

However, I have to be careful in managing my time. I tend to leave very little personal time for myself. I gotta work on that.

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People Who Lie

So believe it or not, I actually heard from that guy, you know the one that "disappeared" around Valentine's Day. Of course he had a story.

According to him, I'm too nosy and investigative which is why he blocked me. Even he had to agree that his timing was off. Why would you block your girlfriend the day after telling her you're going to be gone for "a week or so."

I'm not going to waste anymore time talking about this guy. At the end of the day, he's sketchy and a liar. The relationship is still over.

People really shouldn't lie. As a teenager, I got into a bad habit of telling white lies to my parents in order to get what I wanted. Luckily I outgrew that trait. Lying is never good. 

Keep Calm and Read Some Quotes

So my mood is improving with each passing day. I don't have time to be sad or hurt over someone who wasted my time.

However, there are so many quotes out there that describe my current state of mind. Some come from songs, others were found on tumblr. I just thought I'd share them with ya'll. Feel free to borrow any, I only request that you mention my blog in the process :-)

Red lipstick, rose pedals, heartbreak, I was his Marilyn Monroe

Sometimes the way you think about a person isn't the way they actually are

The best revenge is just moving on and getting over it. Don't give someone the pleasure of watching you suffer

I thought I lost you somewhere, but you were never really ever there at all
And I just want to tell you, that it takes everything in me not to call you;
And I wish I could run to you;
And I hope you know that every time I don't;
I almost do, I almost do

There was a difference between what you said and what you did

If you're going to leave my life, at least close the door behind you

There was a time I thought, that you did everything right; No lies, no wrong; Boy I must've been out of my mind

So when I think of the time that I almost loved you; You showed your ass and I, I saw the real you

You don't deserve my tears, I guess that's why they ain't there

What goes around comes back around

Thank God I found the good in goodbye

Cause honestly you turned out to be the best thing I never had

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Relationships: Letting Go and Closure

So the past few days have been pretty tough for me. Well actually the past month is when everything really started to go downhill. My boyfriend started these "disappearing acts." But he always had a believable excuse. Well last week was different, he admitted to his lies and the truth finally came out. Or so I thought.

Well now I'm sitting here confused because he decided to "disappear" on Valentine's Day for a week. But we spoke that morning and everything seemed okay with us. Not to mention, he had really been sweet and attentive all last week. Next thing you know, he blocks me on Facebook and Instagram and poof he's gone.

Could this be his way of ending things? I'm going to assume so. Especially since I still have yet to hear from him. And I don't think I will.

Overall, I have mixed feelings about the whole incident. I wish he would've manned up and said he didn't want to be together anymore. But he gave me no reason to believe that. Especially since he would go out of his way to prove his innocence and trust. He swore there was no one else. I just want some closure but I don't think I will get that from him.

I'm naive to think that all people are good. Because at the end of the day, niggas really ain't shit.

Shoutout to the "Shake It Off: R&B Kiss Offs" station on Songza. Some songs have really been helping me let go and find closure.

Caught Out There - Kelis
Moving On - Mya
Enough Cryin' - Mary J. Blige
Unfoolish (remix) - Ashanti featuring Biggie
Best Thing I Never Had - Beyonce

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Valentine's Day and Relationships

February brings the most annoying holiday -- Valentine's Day. Of course it's cute to have a day to spoil and pamper your significant other, but is a holiday really necessary? I find it more meaningful when it's more random. When I told my bf this theory, he questioned whether I would still expect something despite my feelings about this holiday.  My response -- You damn straight! I mean ignoring Valentine's Day would be like ignoring Christmas, it's still a holiday. Even though it's more of a scam to get people to buy overpriced flowers and chocolate. 

But anyway.

How do you celebrate Valentine's Day when you're in a new relationship? And by new, I mean barely 2 months in. I've been trying to figure this out all month. My fear is that I will go all out and he won't. But whatever, that's the difference between males and females.  I would really be content with some flowers and/or a box of chocolate or something original. I just rather not go out to eat. As a server, I find that to be very cliche.

Do you have some suggestions? Let me know....

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Snow on the coast

What's good with all this snow in the south? The Hampton Roads area had 7 inches of snow last night. It's not supposed to snow here! I left PA to get away from the snow and it seems to have followed me. 

Of course VA Beach has yet to plow anything other than the major roads. It's sad that this area doesn't know how to prepare for inclement weather. We have a limited amount of snow plows which makes it very difficult to go anywhere because the roads are covered with snow.

Since I'm from the Poconos where it snows all the time, I will share some of my top tips for dealing with the snow

Rule #1: Start plowing and salting the roads as soon as the snow begins to stick. Duh!

Rule #2: Do not go out unless it is an emergency. And if you do decide to drive, put your car in a lower gear. The brakes are nonexistent when there's snow and ice on the roads.

Rule #3: Dress in layers, below freezing temperatures are not good for your skin!

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Smoothie Fail

My boyfriend wants us to start this "juicing" diet for 10 days. After watching the documentary, "Fat, Sick, and Nearly Dead," I decided that I was down. So in order to prepare myself, I decided to start a smoothie diet. It is not in my budget to buy Tropical Smoothie everyday so I figured I would research how to make my own.

After buying some fruits from Walmart, I attempted to make a smoothie. I put milk, strawberries, limes, and ice in a blender. Not only was my smoothie disgusting, but it was also pretty watery. Apparently, you're supposed to put juice in it  to add sweetness? Fail.

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TGIF

So it's Friday night and what am I doing? Sitting at home on my laptop listening to "R&B Love Songs" on Jango Radio. Why, may you ask? Because I'm actually off for once but my man had to go home this weekend. So here I am stuck at home with NO plans. I'm not mad, I understand that family comes first. I just thought that I would be able to see him today. It's been a few days. So pardon me for being a little upset. He likes to say that I go crazy if I haven't seen him for a couple of days. But hey, at least he considers that to be one of my cute qualities. 

But instead of sitting here wallowing in my misery, I am going to continue to take advantage of this night off and RELAX. I don't do much of that. 

I love this t-shirt by the way.

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Happy New Year!

Here I go neglecting my blog again lol. But in my defense, I currently have three jobs, I just moved a few days ago, and I just got into a new relationship. So pardon me if I'm a little busy these days lol.

Luckily, one of those three jobs is a seasonal position and ends tomorrow.

But let's talk about this recent move. First of all, my family needs to have a TV show because when we're all together, it's like watching a comedy. The move was predicted to take four hours and ended up taking over six. Yes, we have a lot of stuff, but the majority of it includes my mother's wardrobe of clothes, purses, coats, etc. We still have A LOT of unpacking to do but at least the hardest part is over.

And about my relationship. Just know that he's a Taurus and I adore him :-)